How to prepare your kids for a family photoshoot is something almost every parent Googles the night before—and for good reason. Getting little ones to relax, cooperate, and actually enjoy the experience can feel like a big ask.
But here’s the good news: it’s absolutely possible.
At FAM, we’ve seen it all—and we know that with a bit of planning, you can help them feel calm and even enjoy the process.
If you’re hoping for those genuine smiles and sweet sibling moments, keep reading. We’ll show you how to make the day fun, smooth, and totally worth it.
Keep Them Rested, Fed, and Happy
Before you head out to capture those authentic moments with your kids, making sure they're well-rested and properly fueled can make all the difference. It sounds simple—but it truly sets the tone for the entire experience.
Adjust nap schedules so your little ones are alert and refreshed during the session—especially if you’re planning to shoot during golden hour. If your child has a consistent routine, stick to it as much as possible in the days leading up to the shoot.
Also, let your photographer know about your child’s energy patterns or sensitivities—this helps us pace the session in a way that works best for them and leaves room for much-needed breaks.
It’s all about figuring out what works for your family’s rhythm and preferences.
When it comes to nutritional balance, a solid meal or snacks beforehand can help avoid those mid-shoot meltdowns. Pack water and mess-free snacks for quick pick-me-ups that keep energy levels steady.
A well-rested, well-fed child is more likely to show up relaxed, curious, and ready to play—and that’s when the magic happens.
Looking for a photographer who embraces the beautiful unpredictability of family life? FAM turns all those in-between moments into lasting art.
Choose Outfits That Feel Good and Look Effortless
What your kids wear to a family photoshoot can have a big impact—and it doesn’t have to be complicated. The key is finding that sweet spot between comfort and coordination.
Start with what feels good. Soft fabrics like cotton, jersey, or breathable knits let kids move freely and stay cool, even during longer sessions. You’ll want to avoid stiff collars, scratchy tags—anything they’ll want to tear off five minutes in.
Be sure to test-drive outfits ahead of time to catch any hidden discomforts, and give your kids a voice in the process—they’re more likely to wear something confidently if they’ve helped choose it.
As for style? Aim for connection, not clones.
Pick 2 to 3 complementary colors that flow together naturally, like blue and mustard or sage and cream.
Reserve the dominant color for key family members, then sprinkle in accent shades through accessories and children’s outfits.
Let each family member show a bit of personality through layers or textures—think cardigans, patterned skirts, or a pop of print in your toddler’s suspenders.
Keeping things cohesive without matching too closely creates timeless images that feel authentic.
Above all, let the outfits reflect your family’s vibe. When the kids feel at ease in their clothes, it shows, and the best photos come from those genuine, joy-filled moments.
Pack Smart: Essentials and Outfit Backups That Keep Things Flowing
Even the most relaxed photo sessions can throw a few surprises your way, especially with kids involved.
The right supplies can turn those curveballs into quick fixes, keeping the day smooth and stress-free.
You’ll want to start with the basics—water bottles, wipes, and easy snacks like crackers or dried fruit help maintain energy and mood. Don’t forget their favorite comfort item—like a blanket or stuffed animal—that can work wonders during slower moments, especially for toddlers.
Then, think practically.
If you’re shooting outdoors or exploring textured terrain, opt for closed-toe shoes that will handle a little dirt and still look good. And always pack weather-aware extras—think sun hats in summer or light layers when the breeze rolls in.
Backup plans are your safety net.
Bring a full change of clothes for each child, including socks, shoes, and undergarments. Choose outfits with soft, breathable fabrics and simple fasteners—things that’ll slip on and off quickly if needed. Organize spares by child in labeled bags so you’re never fumbling when it’s go-time.
That way, you’ll be prepped for unpredictable spills or accidents.
A brush for wind-blown hair, an infant change kit, and coordinated layers help your family stay photo-ready without the pressure.
With a bit of planning, you’ll stay present, flexible, and ready to enjoy the moment—mess and all.
Plan Snack and Meal Timing to Keep Kids Smiling
A well-timed snack is one of your best tools for smooth sailing on photo day.
To set your family up for success, aim to offer light, mess-free snacks about 30 to 60 minutes before the session begins—enough to stave off hunger without making little ones feel too full or sluggish.
Choose easy, camera-friendly snacks, like fruit slices, yogurt, crackers, or granola bars. Skip sticky, saucy, or overly messy foods that risk stains or sticky fingers.
Now, while snacks can work wonders for keeping kids upbeat, main meals may need their own game plan to dodge any pre-photoshoot mishaps.
Plan meal timing thoughtfully—schedule main meals 1 to 2 hours before the session to prevent hunger crashes or post-meal discomfort. Think wraps, sandwiches, and cut fruit—meals that are satisfying yet low mess.
Batch prep snacks in advance and, most importantly, pack them in leak-proof containers along with wipes for quick clean-ups. This prep reduces stress and keeps your focus on fun and family moments.
Hydration is just as key—stick to water over sugary drinks to keep energy steady and moods bright.
Coordinate snack and meal timing with your photographer if possible, so you’ll capture your family at their happiest and cleanest, ready to create timeless memories.
Help Your Kids Feel Comfortable in Front of the Camera
When children feel safe, seen, and understood, they are more likely to let their personalities shine—that’s what makes the photos so special. And one of the best ways to prepare your kids for a family photoshoot is by supporting their emotional readiness.
Start by setting a positive, low-pressure tone. Let your kids know this is not about being perfect—it’s about having fun together. Their energy, their quirks—even those wiggly moments? Totally normal. There’s really no need to stress about behavior; we expect (and love!) a little chaos.
Here are a few gentle ways to help your child feel at ease:
- Talk about the photoshoot ahead of time and let them share their thoughts or ideas.
- Let them bring a comfort item—like a favorite stuffed animal or toy.
- Stay calm and reassuring if big feelings show up.
- Keep the mood light by allowing space for play and spontaneity.
Instead of scripted poses, focus on making the day about connections. When your child feels included and supported, it shows—and those are the moments you’ll treasure most.
A session tailored to your child’s energy and comfort can make all the difference. Explore how FAM crafts playful, pressure-free photo experiences.
When Moods Shift: Handling Tantrums with Patience and Play
Even the best-laid plans sometimes meet a few wobbly moments, especially when little ones are involved. And that’s okay.
Big feelings, sudden mood changes, and unexpected outbursts are part of the experience—and they don’t have to derail the day.
So, instead of fighting the moment, lean in with empathy and flexibility. A trusted photographer will know how to pause, pivot, and keep things light, so don’t stress about getting everything perfect. Sometimes the real magic comes in the messy in-betweens.
Here are gentle ways to bring your child back into the moment:
- Acknowledge the feeling. A simple “I see you’re upset” goes a long way in helping kids feel seen and safe. Follow it up with calming strategies like deep breaths, slow counting, and a soft hug.
- Redirect with fun. Whether it’s a goofy dance, peekaboo, or their favorite stuffed friend making a surprise appearance, playful distractions help reset the energy without pressure.
- Let them move. Kids aren't wired to stay still for long—and that’s a good thing. Let them run, twirl, collect leaves, and explore nearby spaces. That physical freedom often leads to the most honest, joy-filled images.
- Encourage small wins. Praise their efforts and cooperation in real time (“I love how you held your sister’s hand!”), or invite older kids to take on playful roles, such as assistant leaf gatherer or smile coach. It builds confidence and keeps them engaged.
Rather than forcing stillness, make space for personality. The goal isn’t to choreograph perfection—it’s to capture your family’s connection, just as it is, in all its honest beauty.
Want a photographer who understands how to turn chaos into keepsakes? FAM specializes in capturing your family’s real, joyful moments.
Arrive Early to Set the Tone for a Calm, Connected Session
When it comes to family photo sessions, how you start often shapes the whole experience. Giving yourself a buffer—arriving 20 to 30 minutes early—can be the difference between a rush and a relaxed, joy-filled shoot.
That extra time gives your family breathing room to settle in, soak up the moment, and explore the location at your own pace. Kids can ease into the environment, get comfortable with their surroundings, and even connect with the photographer before the camera comes out.
For little ones especially, this slow transition makes a world of difference.
Here’s how to make the most of your early arrival:
- Build in buffer time. Try to arrive at least 30 minutes early. That’s your safety net for traffic delays and last-minute outfit tweaks.
- Let kids explore. Before getting them camera-ready, give your children a chance to roam, play, or snack in their comfy clothes. It helps them warm up both physically and emotionally.
- Keep their routines familiar. Bring along their comfort items, water, and their favorite go-to snack so everything feels just a little more “normal.”
- Ease into the vibe. Play soft music during the drive or try calming routines like a short stretch or a deep breath together before hopping out of the car.
- Connect with your photographer. That extra time allows the photographer to chat with your kids and earn their trust, especially helpful with shy or high-energy personalities.
Avoiding a last-minute scramble doesn't just reduce stress—it sets the tone for a session full of authentic connection and relaxed joy. And that’s exactly what you want captured.
Helping Kids Feel at Home in the Space
Once you’ve arrived and everyone’s had a moment to breathe, the real magic begins—not with posing, but with exploring.
Giving your child some time to interact with the environment can turn unfamiliar places into playgrounds of possibility, which naturally invites relaxed body language, genuine expressions, and candid moments.
Encourage curiosity and discovery before the formal photos begin. Whether it’s tracing their fingers along a tree trunk or skipping along a dirt path, these little interactions ground your child in the moment, and that emotional ease is what brings the photos to life.
Here’s how to turn your session location into a space of comfort and connection:
- Make it familiar in advance. If possible, visit the location a few days before your session or share pictures and stories to build anticipation.
- Point out playful landmarks. Big trees, bridges, benches, or winding paths can spark imagination and ease nerves.
- Let them lead. Follow your child’s curiosity during the first few minutes on-site. Their instincts can often lead to the most heartwarming frames.
- Embrace a bit of spontaneity. The best sessions unfold when the location itself becomes part of the story—whether that means tiptoeing through tall grass or giggling under a willow tree.
The more your kids connect with their surroundings, the more they’ll show up as their true selves—and that’s exactly what you want to preserve.
Turning Play into Portraits: Making the Session Fun for Everyone
Once your child is feeling settled in and curious, it’s the perfect time to lean into what they do best—play. Movement and laughter are a direct line to candid expressions, and weaving in simple games and playful activities creates a natural rhythm for the session.
Rather than asking kids to “smile,” invite them into moments that make them smile. From piggyback rides and tickle attacks to mini scavenger hunts and them “flying” through the air, these interactions are not just fun—they’re memory-making gold.
Here’s how to build play into your family session:
- Start with movement-based games. Classics like red light/green light, ring-around-the-rosie, and Simon Says help break the ice and release any lingering tension.
- Use connection-based play. Think blanket swings, airplane rides, and dance-offs—anything that encourages closeness and shared laughter.
- Foster imaginative moments. Prompt superhero poses, animal impressions, and playful pretend scenarios that bring out your kids’ personalities.
- Let silliness lead. Tickle fights, goofy walks, or secrets whispered into ears will not only spark joy but help everyone forget the camera is even there, too.
Photographers skilled in lifestyle sessions will follow your child’s energy, adapting the pace to match their mood. The result?
Images full of light, movement, and the unmistakable joy of your family’s real story—chaos, charm, and all.
These moments are where the magic happens—and the right photographer will know just how to capture them. Learn more about FAM’s approach to storytelling.
End on a High Note: Incentives and Celebrations
The session doesn’t necessarily have to end when the camera clicks. One of the best ways to keep your little ones motivated—and to make sure family photo day becomes a happy memory—is to reward their efforts with something fun to look forward to.
Whether it’s a sweet treat, an outing, or simply acknowledging how awesome they did, small celebrations go a long way.
Here are some ways to wrap up the day with warmth and joy:
- Plan a post-session treat. Think ice cream, hot chocolate, a trip to the playground, or movie night at home—something you know they love.
- Let them choose the reward. Involving your kids in picking the celebration gives them a sense of control and something concrete to anticipate.
- Give meaningful praise. A simple “You were so great today—thank you for helping us have fun.” reinforces positive behavior without pressure.
- Capture a few bonus moments. Some of the best smiles happen after the actual session—when the pressure’s off, and everyone’s just being themselves.
By ending the day on a celebratory note, you’re not only rewarding participation; you’re planting the seeds for future sessions that your whole family will look forward to.
Turning Moments Into Memories That Last
Every family session holds the potential to become something more than just pictures—it’s a chance to tell your story through connection, joy, and those little in-between moments that often go unnoticed. And when your kids feel seen, safe, and celebrated, those moments shine through effortlessly.
At FAM NYC Photography, we specialize in capturing that magic—unfiltered and unforgettable.
If you're ready to create images that feel as real as the love behind them, book your session here and let’s make some memories.
